Here is how to plan the wedding like a man:

The ceremony

Depending on your spiritual denomination and designation, you may not have the luxury of playing with your ceremony. But for the most part, the wedding couple can take part in an extensive consultation with the official in question to personalize the service.

As the man in the equation, you play a crucial role. If you sit there like a tool and let your woman dictate the pace of the ceremony, what good are you? Think about what you want to express as you exchange vows.

The most boring wedding ceremony I ever went to was where the couple stood at the altar and let the minister do all of the talking. They said “I do” and that was it. How lame can you get?

Be involved in what the official will declare about you and your bride. Let him know you and vice versa. And when you talk to your future wife in front of everyone at your wedding service, make sure to say what you want. Be the masculine voice in the relationship and take control of your part in the ceremony.

men are usually far more sensible about the financial obligation of a wedding than women. The bride is awash with a romantic notion of her special day and can lose sight of the fact that money is required to make her dream wedding come true.

So as the man you need to act as a buffer. Who knows? If you have a grandiose notion of the event, she may have to hold you back from going all out. The bottom line is that you should help choose the site. This is a party in your honor. Do you want to celebrate somewhere that was chosen for you?

The food
I know men who have left the food up to their significant other. They were shown a menu, but discarded it with apathy and let someone else decide what they would eat on their own wedding day. For shame. Will you let that happen to you? Is your interest in the food so low that you cannot devote an hour to devise a menu?

The risk you take if you leave it up to her is considerable. Imagine you sit down to enjoy your wedding meal and on the plate are pork tenderloin and asparagus. You hate pork tenderloin. You hate asparagus. But you never told her that. So eat up and smile.

Your masculine input is crucial in the area of wedding food. Do you want your crew picking at dainty hors d’oeuvres or chowing down some serious grub? And what about alcohol? If you feign interest, she may select a cash bar and table wine with the meal. No beer for you mister. The night of the big event, your boys will have to pay through the teeth to celebrate in proper style.

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