So you have the hardest part taken care of: you already
proposed to the right girl and she said yes (a shocker, I know).  All finished with the decision making
right? Not so much. It’s only just begun. One of the bigger questions you now have to
think about is who to choose as your best man.
After all, this decision can have serious repercussions. One of which being that dreaded Drunk Toast
where the Best Man gets all handsy and says I Love You about a hundred
times. Trust me, no one wants that.
The best way to avoid such incidents is to evaluate your
choices and make the smart decision. I
outlined below some of the qualities to look for in your best man as well as
some approaches to follow when trying to make that choice. Pay attention, this is important.
Dependable
I liken this decision to Top Gun and your need to find the Goose
to your Maverick. You want the guy
that’s never going to leave his wingman.
He needs to be your moral support through all those difficult
moments. This is the man who would be
willing to do anything for you. Well,
almost anything.
Trustworthy
The Best Man should be your most trusted confidante. He is your main guy that you go to for help
in all those pesky problem solving situations (like the time you got tossed in
the clink for indecent exposure in Tijuana). In other words, he can keep a secret. He must be able to come through in the
clutch. Take care of those little
details with no questions asked.
Responsible
Sure Larry might be the life of the party but he lives all
the way across the country and has trouble accepting responsibility. Probably not the right choice. Think about what’s going on in his life
too. Is he super busy? Does he live far away? Is his life a complete and utter mess? All tell-tale signs that maybe this guy is
not the ideal candidate.
Choose With Confidence
If you happen to be one of those people with lots of really
close friends (side-note: maybe you could tell me what that’s like), then suddenly
the decision to choose your best man becomes more difficult. Don’t be nervous because of the title
Best. Yes this implies that you are
labeling one of your friends BETTER than the others, but I’m sure the rest of
those lesser guys will be cool with it.
Respect Your Bride’s Wishes
The last thing you want is to choose someone that your
wife-to-be cannot stand. Maybe he smells
or maybe he’s just simply irritating. It
really doesn’t matter. Bottom line is if
she would be upset to have him be the guy toasting the two of you as husband
and wife, then it’s not the right choice.
He doesn’t have to be her favorite by any stretch, but just be aware of her
feelings. That’s pretty much good advice
all the time.
Go With Your Instinct
Remember he does NOT have to be family. There certainly is nothing wrong with
choosing a brother from another mother.
Trust your judgment. When all
else fails go with your instincts. It
works for our President, well it doesn’t really work but that doesn’t stop him from doing it. And that means it must be right. So if your gut says to pick some random
stranger as your best man I guess you’re gonna have to do it. Go get ‘em tiger.
 |
Subscribe to this comment's feed
