Let them eat cake! You may leave the color theme and table favors to your bride, but for heaven’s sake help choose the cake!

“For many men, the cake might be the only aspect of the wedding they care about or are allowed to have a say in,” says cake designer Erica O’Brien; 90% of her Long Beach, Calif.-based business is wedding cakes. “A lot of grooms get really excited about the cake, and many grooms take an active role in the process.”

Can you imagine your fiancé allowing you to have complete control over one (major) aspect of your wedding? It can happen. O’Brien tells GroomsOnline, “I recently worked with a groom who designed the entire cake.”

And the traditional “cake-tasting” (in which the bakery’s best are sampled) is still attended, O’Brien says, by both the bride and groom. “. It’s really nice to watch them experience the cake tasting together,” she says. It’s also probably the groom’s favorite excursion of wedding planning. Yum!

With celeb-friendly bakeries like Sprinkles, Doughboys, Buttercake, Bluebird, Hot Cakes, Magnolia, Susina and Hummingbird making a name for themselves, on (almost just) their red-velvet cupcakes, it doesn’t surprise us that O’Brien says that red-velvet wedding cakes are “very trendy right now.”

Outside of south, most people may reluctantly admit that the first time they heard of a “groom’s cake” was the (red velvet!) armadillo groom’s cake designed and baked by the groom’s aunt in the 1989 blockbuster, the wedding-centric Steel Magnolias.

She may have recently worked with just the groom on a cake, but she says, “It’s always fun to work with both the bride and the groom. I always ask how they met.” Their stories, she says, are invariably so fun and fascinating, that O’Brien hopes “one day to write a book with some of the best stories.”

A couple may save this “fun” part of the planning (frankly, the most fun) to the latter part of the wedding activities, and by then, are familiar with each other and know how they make decisions. O’Brien says, “I work collaboratively with my clients on the design process, and getting to know them as a couple helps me to envision the mood they are trying to establish through their cake. I definitely prefer that they both be there.”