As the man in the equation, you play a crucial role. Think about what you want to express as you exchange vows and have a voice in the pace of the service. The most boring wedding ceremony I ever went to was when the couple stood at the altar and let the minister do all of the talking. They said “I do” and that was it. How lame can you get?

Be involved in what the official will declare about you and your bride. Let him know you and vice versa. And when you talk to your future wife in front of everyone at your wedding service, make sure to say what you want. Be the masculine voice in the relationship and take control of your part in the ceremony.

The Reception Site
The party location is where men make the fatal error of not getting involved. The hours you spent in front of the television while she and her mother do the hall circuit are not worth it in the long run. Because the downside is, on the day of your wedding, you will despise everything about the place.

Go together and interview event coordinators. Ask about their pricing scheme and try to negotiate because in general, men are usually far more sensible about the financial obligation of a wedding than women. The bride is awash with a romantic notion of her special day and can lose sight of the fact that money is required to make her dream wedding come true.

You need to act as a buffer. Who knows? If you have a grandiose notion of the event, she may have to hold you back from going all out. The bottom line is that you should help choose the site. This is a party in your honor. Do you want to celebrate somewhere that was chosen for you?

The Feast
I know men who have left the food up to their significant other. They were shown a menu, but discarded it with apathy and let someone else decide what they would eat on their own wedding day. Shame on them. Will you let that happen to you? Is your interest in the food so low that you cannot devote an hour to devise a menu?

The risk you take if you leave it up to her is considerable. Imagine you sit down to enjoy your wedding meal and on the plate are pork tenderloin and asparagus. You hate pork tenderloin. You hate asparagus. But you never told her that. So eat up and smile.

Your masculine input is crucial in the area of wedding food. Do you want your crew picking at dainty hors d’oeuvres or chowing down some serious grub? And what about alcohol? If you feign interest, she may select a cash bar and table wine with the meal. No beer for you, mister. The night of the big event, your boys will have to pay through the teeth to celebrate in proper style.